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So I was on facebook scrolling through my feed the one day and came across this Andie Case video that she did with Emma Heesters, can I just say – wow.

I actually found myself crying happy years listening to them sing together. Strange right? I stopped to consider why I was crying. I knew it wasn’t necessarily how awesome they sounded, it was in that moment I realized that I felt unbelievably empowered! Here were two strong/gorgeous/talented females, UNIFIED. But wait, what made me so emotional about that? Well maybe it’s because this actually IS NOT the norm! Can we stop to think about that for a second? Two females collaborating together actually shocked and inspired my heart enough that I naturally just welled up with tears! Do you ever really see women at such a level, working together, totally in their element? In fact, I have seen very few collaborations between women in general, not just music. The power between these two was just so amplified for me, it was radianting from them and infectious! They weren’t singing to compete, they were singing to pair their talents. This is OUR POTENTIAL as females!

And then I started to think, why don’t we have more of this? Why are females so often alone, or alongside men only? Why have we divided ourselves so much? We seem so afraid to let other women in because so often we automatically hate on each other! It’s like we had this hard wired into us we’ve just felt it for so long. We compete, fiercely, whether we need to or not. We constantly feel envy, before we even know the other girl a lot of the time. We make assumptions on appearance, we literally tear other girls down as if there was only one spot for a female in this life and we have to have it. We, as moms, often unintentionally pass these feelings of jealousy or lack of self esteem onto our own kids without even realizing it, which just continues the cycle of course. It can start in childhood, feeling compared to siblings. Watching and/or listening to your mom complain about other women or friends growing up, or complaining about themselves. You may have witnessed girls at school pulling each other apart, or boys shaming and ridiculing females.

It. is. crazy. It needs to stop. We absolutely need to rise above it all.

DO WE EVEN REALIZE HOW POWERFUL AND INFLUENTIAL WE ARE?!

Why is it that we allow ourselves to be downplayed as a gender? Forced into the dangerous mentality that we need to be jealous of any other strong woman that enters our world. Can you just imagine what we could accomplish together if all the cattiness stopped? If we.. just wait for it.. actually rooted each other on? We can be so afraid to be vulnerable around other females, I know I’ve felt this way.  I think that secretly we know how powerful we are, and it feels like if you allow yourself to be vulnerable you are literally handing the ammunition over to someone and waiting for them to destroy you. And has not been the case many times growing up? You tell your “best” friend a secret, and the first fight you have she’s using it to try to ruin you.

We do this to ourselves.

We can choose at any point to stop partaking in the gossip, in the judgement of each others, and the temptation to fight fire with fire. We have to stop feeding that part of ourselves that makes us gossip, and stop feeding that part in others. It’s not productive and does nothing but cause harm, to us AND them. We can choose to work on our own struggles with our confidence so that we don’t have to radiate that type of energy onto others. So we don’t hate on other girls because of things we actually don’t like about ourselves. I realized a while back, that all of those superficial feelings.. they started with me. How I felt towards other females was because I had experiences that made me lack confidence. I was made to feel unworthy, or should I say – it was me who allowed myself to feel unworthy. Once I found where those feelings came from I realized that it had nothing to do with other girls, and everything to do with how I saw myself.

So ladies, can we work together on this one – to recognize our influence? We are also modeling what is normal and acceptable for young girls as well. We all play a part in setting the standard. We need to take back some respect for ourselves. I’m saying this as a reminder for myself too. WE ARE FIRE. We must break down these walls, and lift each other up.

We are powerful as one, but even more powerful in numbers. ❤️

We’re in this together.

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To all my moto ladies that came to any of our girls-only 10 Training camps, you are the ones who restored my faith in how females can interact together in groups! You left the high school girl mentality behind and you empowered each other and that has been unbelievably beautiful to witness with each group. You accepted me without judgement.

A thank you to 2 of my favorite humans, Kristen & Giselle, for reminding me of the female potential. Whenever I think of strength & friendship I think of you both and your ability to show me that these types of authentic female friendships truly do exist and they are within all of us. If you want to know a friendship deeper than mostly any I’ve ever known follow these 2 amazing girls on Instagram and witness their bond yourself, they are magic together – Kristen (@ladylassen) / Giselle (@girlontwowheels)

Surely drama will exist within the groups at times, I don’t know we could ever escape that entirely since we are all human of course, but being around others females who are cheerleaders for each other, who stand behind each other in the most authentic way, well that is exactly what we all are looking for is it not? 

May we all find our tribe and thrive as a gender together. xo


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Mother of 2 / plant-based vegan family / healing physically and emotionally + always working to raise my consciousness. Married a professional motorcycle racer and run a holistic-style motorcycle training school while we live on our 16 acres in Florida and travel throughout the year. I write, I design, I research, I create. I never stop learning. Striving for progress not perfection.

My words are in no way coming from a place where I am judging others who think differently than me, my words are to assure those that do think like me that they are not alone.

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