This is where I recommend self-help books. ★
Now now, don’t leave me yet. It seems whenever I recommend a book about “self-improvement” people completely shut off their listening ears and pretend like I never said it. WHY IS THAT? Have we become so afraid of vulnerability, of admitting to ourselves that we are not always right and perfect, that we shy away from something that could enrich our lives entirely? I’ve been there, my pride getting in the way of my progress, or should I just say – my ego. It haunts all of us. But I’ve come to understand that my little people are much more important than my ego, so I choose the books. 😉
So let me clearly say – the most valuable weapons in my arsenal are self-help books.
I’m the mom in the book store that bolts to the self-help section right after I drop my kids and husband off in the kid’s area. I would guess someone watching me would be making assumptions… either that or deem me mom of the year who knows.. but really I just absolutely love working on myself because lets be real – you are the center of everything in your life. Selflish right? Nope, stay with me.. I’m saying that you control your own thoughts, how you react and what you put into the world. You decide the type of parent you want to be. So we may as well read books that promote growth and awareness in those areas, am I right?
One of my favorite quotes is “Lets not raise children who have to recover from their childhoods.” by Pam Leo. My own childhood wasn’t exactly sunshine and rainbows the whole way through and I know much of that could be attested to just lack of awareness in that generation, but we have access to so much at our fingertips, and I didn’t want to repeat the same type of impact for my own children. I’ve read many parenting books that really approach from a gentle angle. They promote more peaceful parenting and help you grow as not just a parent, but a human being, so you can be of more help to your children.
So having said all that, below is my list of 5 parenting books I would absolutely recommend for parents. Consider what you read, but don’t always take it as written in stone. Part of reading like this is reaching inside and pulling out your authentic self. The one you’ve forgotten to acknowledge while society got in your way. I won’t tell you my overall thoughts on the books, just a general summary, I’ll let you make up your own mind without me tainting your perspective.
“Teaching how to become a calmer and happier mother through Buddhist teachings” ♦ Available kindle & audiobook.
What I say – “Very relatable, very beginner friendly for moms new to conscious parenting. I am not a Buddhist and she doesn’t speak to you like you are, just shares perspective. Really reminds you how important it is to work on yourself and how much your reactions affect your children.”
“This book will take you on a journey to transcending your fears and illusions around parenting and help you become the parent you always wanted to be: fully present and conscious. It will arm you with practical, hands-on strategies and real-life examples from my experience as a parent and clinical psychologist that show the extraordinary power of being a conscious parent.” ♦ Available on kindle and audiobook.
What I say – “Still finishing it, but wow! It’s definitely a favorite and it needed to be on the list!! Extremely important to help you make sense of why you are the way you are as a person and parent. Would be a really valuable book for your own parents as you come to realizations on where their parenting affected you. She writes it very straight forward and says it how it is, I think some of us need that. Highly recommend!!”
“John Holt was the first to make clear that, for small children, “learning is as natural as breathing.” In his delightful book he observes how children actually learn to talk, to read, to count, and to reason, and how, as adults, we can best encourage these natural abilities in our children.” ♦ Available on kindle.
What I say – “Excellent book for literally any person who has contact with a child, especially if you are someone who works with children. It really breaks down how children think. It challenges you to consider what you think you know on how children actually learn, and also helps you see some perspective on how school and the way children actually learn don’t really compliment one another. Informative.”
“Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness.” ♦ Available on kindle & audiobook.
What I say – “Not a parenting book per say but so very transformative for a person which applies to parenting in the long run. Powerful for me. It took me months to finish this on my phone (kindle) but literally every time I picked it up I immediately felt better! It’s like everything I read snapped me out of a grumpy mood or hard time. It’s thought-provoking and I felt stress leave my body each time I read because it was just full of so much perspective. It definitely left an impact. I plan to read it again next year, I’m curious to see how differently I understand it the next time I read it.”
“All families need a map to travel the rough roads of life more smoothly. Take Redirecting Children’s Behavior as your guide. This comprehensive book will show you the path to peace within your family and beyond. Take off on a surprise journey with Kathryn Kvols to see how quickly your family can become close, cooperative, and respectful.”
What I say – “Really easy, fairly short read. Why I included this book is because it has a lot of scenarios and it’s straight forward, and although maybe not the entire book works for this generation (it’s an older book) it’s still so relatable and was the first book I read on parenting. I needed those scenarios to try to make sense of a different way to think and parent than what I had been raised with. So I’d definitely recommend it if you want to be eased into gentle parenting and aren’t quite vibing with the other techniques quite yet.”
Added bit as to why you should find time to read:
For me, books helped literally make me love myself and my life again. Or perhaps maybe for the first time in my life. They challenged all of my perspectives, promoted growth in ways I hadn’t even realized I needed it. They have humbled me and continue to broaden my mind every single page I read. I don’t mean fiction story-type books, although I think those are also powerful and expressive in their own ways, but for me the self-improvement type books, they will change so many parts of you.. in so many incredible ways, if you let them.
So if books and documentaries are not already part of your regular lifestyle, I highly highly recommend you consider one area you really would love to improve on. Perhaps it’s forgiveness, jealousy, self-esteem, budgeting, creativity, productivity – whatever it may be that you recognize a need for growth in yourself. Then go to the bookstore, or go online, seek out those types of books within the numerous non-fiction areas, choose the first one that speaks to you – and just start reading. If reading an actual book isn’t your thing then download the audiobook, or the kindle! If your excuse is that you don’t have time, look for it. Audiobooks are awesome for busy people (although I flip between them and paperbacks) but you can find time so much easier. In the bathtub, in the shower, brushing your teeth, washing your face, on the toilet hiding from your kids (I know I’m not the only one), driving to work, while the kids play at the park, while you make dinner, while you run, while you clean, during lunch, during work depending on your job (my husband listens while he works around the property on the tractor). Do you see what I mean? There are so many small moments within the day that add up. You could be expanding your mind with one audiobook book a week if you really wanted! If you have no idea what I’m talking about and want to learn more about audiobooks, click here to read my post about them.
Put in the work. Your mind and heart will thank you, and every person you impact will too.
We’re all in this together.
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